And He Dates My Twin - May 28 2012

Let’s talk about the girl he chose before the one whose mother tried to call the cops on my neighborly behavior… It was a setup from his parents. How likely is it that when your parents set you up, it will work out? Surprisingly, this lasted far longer than I thought. She had gone to the same high school, only a couple of years younger, but he never really knew her. Their parents were good friends and felt that their children would be a perfect match. Wah wah wahhhhhhh. (Cringe of me to say this, I would welcome a parent set up now)

It was in the spring and, as usual, we were spending time together when he became sick. After a couple of doctor visits, he was told he needed surgery—nothing serious, but it needed to be scheduled.

At this point, he had gone out a few times with this setup from the parents. He kept telling me it was nothing serious. So, I took him to the hospital, waited all day through the surgery, kept being referred to by the nurses as “Mrs. Willow,” but at this point, I felt like it would take too much energy to explain we were in no way committed. He had a girl on the side. I was just his ride home.

I remember sitting in his room waiting for him to come back when I heard a text come through on his phone. As I looked down to see who it was from, it was a girl’s name I had never even heard of, asking how he was feeling and how surgery went. Being the little deviant that I am, I simply erased the text like it had never come in. (OH MY GOSH!!!!!! What is wrong with you brittney!!! reading these blog posts again after so many years (2025 now) has made me grateful that I actually became more self aware but these days were SO BAD) 

It wasn’t until a year later I told him what I had done, and he simply laughed at me. Phew! I got away with it!!! (Cringe)

After the surgery, I nursed him back to health for a couple of days as we talked about the upcoming week and the 4th of July. And that is when he came out with it. He had decided to go home to his parents for the holiday—conveniently, where this setup girl would be at the same time with HER family. All the while, as he explained his plans, I kept asking, If you like her this much, why couldn’t SHE have taken you to surgery and nursed you through your sickness???????

I was only a little put off because of the tentative plans we had made before his surgery, but I said OK. When he returned from that weekend, he texted and let me know that he had a girlfriend now and it would probably be best if we no longer communicated. WOW. Just a week after his surgery.

Before the surgery, we had been emailing back and forth one day, and I had asked what this girl looked like. He ended up sending me a couple of pictures, saying that she looked just like me. I, shockingly, agreed. Same hair, same glasses—and he said she was sassy like me. Months later, he went on to say that he thought her and I would be good friends. He said this a handful of times. How things she did would remind him of me.

The only thing I can say to this is: I guess if you can’t settle down with the real thing, a copy is just as good. (Insert eye roll here)

A couple of months after the 4th, they began having issues and he didn’t know if he was attracted to her or if he wanted to commit (does this sound familiar?). He would confide in me about it, and I would simply say, If you don’t like her, then break up. It is that simple. He decided to go on a week “break” to think about his feelings for her, and while in that break—we had a kiss. I would assume that kiss was not a big enough deal because he ended up going back to her for another month, and then again it finally ended for good with them.

(A side note about their breakup: My roommate and I had actually pulled into our parking spot at the moment he was breaking up with her in his car and we saw them… Isn’t it ironic????)

Through each girl that he has ever dated, I have been there—offering advice, being supportive, and just listening. All the while putting my heart on the line, as I never really realized that I was never meant to be THE girl, but only just a soundboard…